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And just like that….the tide turns.

According to a recent San Francisco Chronicle article, opposition to Prop 8 is growing.

The poll found that just 38 percent of likely voters support the measure, while 55 percent intend to vote no. That compares with 42 percent in support and 51 percent opposed in July.

Prop 8 supporters have tried to sue to block the modification of the wording of the bill, but let’s face it… it now correctly reflects what that proposition is really about. “Eliminates the right of same-sex couples to marry.” Those same sex couples now have that right, thanks to the California Supreme Court, and proponents of Prop 8 are trying to take it away. Californians aren’t big on removing rights.

It’s too early to relax; we STILL need everyone to turn out to vote against it. But it now looks as though it’s got a better than even chance of failing.

Why California will not ban gay marriage

First, let me say I apologize for being away so long; I missed paying tribute to the wonderful trail blazer Del Martin, who died yesterday. She was a great lady and an inspiration to us all; out and an activist when activism was not just frowned on, but dangerous. My deepest sympathies go out to her partner Phyllis. Ms. Martin, you will be missed. We are where we are becase of your courage and your years of struggling. Thank you.

So then; back to work. As I’m sure you all know, November is only two short months away, and with it come both national and local elections. Prop 8 has reared its ugly head; the third piece of destructuve, dehumanizing legislation all bent on one thing: reducing gay people to things. To beings less than human. To stripping them of their rights as citizens of this country. Being born gay does not make any American citizen less American. It is time for this stupid, backward thinking to stop.

Fortunately, it doesn’t look like that’s going to go over this time. This time, the gap is closing. Is closed, in fact. The most recent polls show that California voters are neck and neck on the issue. And guess which voters are going to take the no vote over the top? That’s right. The younger generation, first time voters who, unlike their grandparents and parents, have grown up with the belief that people, regardless of gender or color or sexual orientation….are pretty much people. And we just need to get over it and let it happen and move on, already.

I know the fight is far from over. But it’s looking a hell of a lot closer to detante.

Judges are only “activist” when we disagree.

It’s interesting how that works, isn’t it? Abortion, immigration….now same sex marriage. Let us take the case of California Supreme Court cheif justice Ronald George.

After a lifelong career of being a staunch advocate of tough crime legislation and the death penalty for which he received overwhelming conservative acclaim, the jurist has, with one lengthy decision, completely lost his conservative base. I am referring, of course, to the landmark case of Woo v. Lockyer et al. (6 combined cases), the decision which shocked nearly everyone…in most cases happily.

Since that time, Mike Spence, anally clenched head of the California Republican Assembly, has promised to work to get the conservative judge removed from the bench.

“Absolutely, Ron George should be thrown out for voting for gay marriage,” said Mike Spence, president of the conservative California Republican Assembly. “He has a very radical view of what’s a family.” [sic] Spence said his group and others will formally organize after the November election.

Obviously Mr. Spence has a difficult time understanding the difference between a vote and a decision. The court did not “vote for” gay marriage. They interpreted the state constitution and came to the decision, based on the 1948 Perez v. Sharp decision allowing interracial marriage. Interestingly, the people decrying that decision as “activist” belonged to the same groups that are now frothing against gay marriage. And just as now with interracial marriage… at some point in the future, people will look back in consternation, wondering why the big uproar.

I am somewhat in awe of Justice George. He’s spent his career building his reputation and credibility. It’s sad that, among the people whose support and respect he’s earned over the years, one decision can reverse all of it. At the same time, he faced that unflinchingly and still objectively interpreted the law to a decision that, while he may not personally support it, will bring the greatest amount of freedom to the majority of the people. And that is what our society is supposed to be all about. 

Phyllis and Del, 54 years and finally married

After spending a lifetime together, Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin were married last night by the sexiest mayor on the planet, Gavin Newsom.

It is unthinkable that anyone could say these two women who still, after all this time, obviously love each other, do not deserve the benefit of any other loving couple: to stand in front of family and friends and be married.

I think one of the tragedies of this amazing age is that because we are able to access nearly everything through our computers, we sometimes forget that there are human beings on the other end of the concepts we fight against. We apply tags and labels and disregard the fact that those tags and labels are being assigned to 3 dimensional human beings, all of whom have lives and worries and triumphs and joys….just like every other human being.

It’s easy to dismiss a concept. People do it all the time. But watching history taking place, and seeing the love between Phyllis and Del…I could only sit with tears in my eyes and celebrate the fact that these two very human women lived to see the day they could be married and have the love between them vindicated.

British Anglican Church’s First Gay Wedding

The first full wedding ceremony for a gay couple was held in London’s Anglican Church; both grooms members of the clergy. Rev. Peter Cowell & Rev. Dr. David Lord were married last month at St. Bartholomew the Great Church.

Rev. Martin Dudley stood in direct defiance of the bishop guidelines, saying:

“I know about the bishops guidelines and I disagree with them. It just seems to me to be utter hypocrisy to deny the fact that there are significant numbers of gay men and women within the church and significant numbers of gay clergy.”

Now more than ever, various religions are being faced with the fact that members of their faith are gay, and those people no longer feel the need to hide their relationships as if they are something shameful.

If religions are to continue to retain congregations and grow, they must recognize that societal mores change over time as our views of what constitutes a person or a relationship changes.

The main issue I have always had with religion – not belief, but religion – is that it attempts to freeze society in a set of rules that applied well to a certain period in history, but which no longer fit as we’ve advanced scientifically and technologically.

So many things we do now would be considered “not what god wants” from a strictly scriptural standpoint. Marriage, at least according to the bible, used to mean anything up to a man and a hundred women, some of whom were as young as 12 years old. That’s changed. So I’m thinking this “one man, one woman” idea is something that can be negotiable as well, and the insistence on it is really just the “ick” factor that certain people are unable to get past.

One More Reason Gay Marriage Makes sense.

I recently added a comment to someone’s blog regarding Gay Marriage and the inevitable “slippery slope” argument. While such arguments aren’t always fallacies, it’s usually the way to bet, especially when coupled with the emotional tag line “Won’t someone think of the chillllldrrrrreeeeeeeennnnnnnnn!!!” I responded to each point and hit enter, not at all confident that my comment would be approved. As it turns out, I was quite correct in my trepidation; the person to whom I posted was not only incorrect in their assertions, they were stubbornly closed to any disagreement.

Fortunately, I have this article to put forth yet another reason gay marriage is a brilliant success. It works economically. We have the potential of seeing nearly $700M infused into the state’s flagging economy over the next three years, as well as adding over 2100 new jobs. Considering the way the economy’s going right now, that’s nothing to sneeze at.

While this certainly helps to put yet another nail in the coffin of discrimination against the GLBT community, I do wonder if even pragmatism and cold facts will persuade where reason has failed. Anti gay groups are now grasping at straws, oblivious to the fact that it’s simply no longer a tenable position.